Arthur P. Ciaramicoli, Ed.D., Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been treating clients for more than 30 years.
He is a member of the American Psychological Association and the Massachusetts Psychological Association.
Currently in private practice, Dr. Ciaramicoli has been on the faculty of Harvard Medical School for several years, lecturer for the American Cancer Society, Chief Psychologist at Metrowest Medical Center and director of the Metrowest Counseling Center and of the Alternative Medicine division of Metrowest Wellness Center in Framingham, Massachusetts.
In addition to treating patients, Dr. Ciaramicoli has lectured at Harvard Health Services, Boston College Counseling Center, the Space Telescope Science Institute in Baltimore as well as being a consultant to several major corporations in the Boston area.
Dr. Ciaramicoli is also a seasoned media expert. He has appeared on CNN, CNN, Fox News Boston, Comcast TV, New England Cable News, Good Morning America Weekend, The O’Reilly Report, and other shows.
He has been a weekly radio guest on Your Healthy Family on Sirius Satellite Radio and Holistic Health Today, and has been interviewed on The People’s Pharmacy, The Gary Null Show, and more than two dozen other radio programs airing on NPR, XM Radio, and numerous AM and FM stations.
Inspirational quote – My country is my world, my religion is to do good – By Thomas Paine
Alternative Practice – Using empathy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to reduce anxiety and develop resilience.
Health Tip –
Focus on is anything that is learned can be unlearned.
No one is born misperceiving, and no one is born with prejudices and anxieties about different kinds of people because they look different, they come from a different country or they have a different religion.
Our daughter is a kinder garden teacher, and she has 22 students, and I think 11 of them are from different countries.
She says that if you watch them in a playground, they all love each other. The boys are just emphatic as the girls.
They don’t care where you come from, what the color of your skin is or what your religion is. They get along very well.
But she said, you know, what is very disheartening is, as you see them go on to school, second grade, third grade, fourth grade and so on, they start to see the differences.
You start to see them stick to their own clan and you start to see them be a little biased, and of course, that’s where all the conditioning comes from.
We are born with goodness, and people who are giving are ten times healthier than people who are takers and just receivers.
It is much healthier to be giving than it is to receive. It produces that wonderful hormone – Oxytocin.
The Harvard Business Review did a study on who are the most successful corporate managers in the country.
They are the people who make other people feel heard and make other people feel understood. And that is the cornerstone of empathy. Steven Covey talked about empathy years ago saying that it’s the most important ingredient in business.
Major Life Lesson – Listen in a more emphatic way!
My younger brother is four years younger than I am. When he was 23, he overdosed on heroin and from all indications, it was intentional. My brother led a very difficult life, and I was the last person to talk to him.
When I talked to him on the phone, he was living in Europe at the time, in Amsterdam, I could tell that he was very disturbed. I was trying to encourage him to come back to the United States. He had been involved in a robbery, so he was wanted.
He was hesitant to come back. Instead of listening to what he was really trying to say, I gave him a sort of pep talk – you can do it and you will be okay.
I was not really comprehending the fear that he was talking about. I was not looking beyond the surface, and I was not encountering him in an emphatic way.
And what I have learned over time is that the inability of mine to really delve into what he was saying. I don’t know whether it could have saved his life, but I really became committed to learning how to understand people in between the words, beyond the surface of what they are saying, into the heart and soul of what they are trying to communicate.
That was the beginning, that’s why I wrote the book, Power of Empathy, it all started with my brother’s story.
Life Purpose – To help people expand their range of empathy, because I am very troubled by the state of our world.
I think when we develop empathy we can make connections with people we don’t understand initially. I think having more empathy and compassion in our world today is critical to all of us getting along and having international peace.
Best Advice – Believe in yourself and don’t allow negative thinking to thwart your ambition. Keep trying and put one foot in front of the other and, eventually, you will get there if it’s really your calling.
Personal Habit – Exercise and prayer
Book Recommendation – The Art of happiness by Dalai Lama
Learn more about Dr. Arthur P. Ciaramicoli at http://www.balanceyoursuccess.com/
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